Hispanic tradition of "Arras."

The Wedding of Chang and Victora

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We are gathered here today in friendship and happiness to witness Chong-ren and Victoria pledge their love and commitment to one another.

There are two very special chairs located in the front row today.

 Chong and Victoria placed flowers on the chairs to honor the memory of Chong’s parents Mu-nan Chien and Boo Le Chien.

 Their lives are being honored today because their special sacrifices insured that their sons, Chong and On-ren would be educated in the United States.

 And according to friends and family, Mu-nan and Boo Le were very successful thanks to their hard work and great parenting skills.

Their legacies and life accomplishments are remembered today, as Chong and Victoria wed.

  Mu-nan and Boo Le are missed and loved.

  The reality is that everyone's life is limited to only a certain amount of time.

  As the great 19th Century orator, Robert Green Ingersoll said, "The time to be happy is now.

  The place to be happy is here."

  Victoria and Chong, take the time to make your partner feel special.

 Never take each other for granted.

  Take the time to listen and to share.

 Give each other the benefit of the doubt because communication will be difficult at times and misunderstandings are inevitable.

  It takes time, effort, courage, humility and commitment to make a successful marriage.

  Take the time to talk about your fears, failures, and disappointments.

  Talk about each other's expectations, hopes, and dreams.

  Be flexible and willing to adapt well to changes and new circumstances.

  Above all, take the time to tell each other what you want.

  Take the risk of being vulnerable with each other.

  On-ren, please give your brother, Victoria’s wedding ring.

  Chong and Victoria, take each other by the hand to exchange your vows.

  Chong, please repeat after me:

  As your husband and your friend –

 (Chong repeats)

 I promise that I will stand by you –

 (Chong repeats)

  In sickness and in health –

 (Chong repeats)

  For better and for worse –

 (Chong repeats)

 For richer and for poorer –

 (Chong repeats)

  For as long as we both shall live –

 (Chong repeats)

  Do you, Chong take Victoria to be your wife and pledge to her your respect and faithful love from this day forward?

 (Chong says, "I do.")

  Please place Victoria's ring on her finger.

  Taylor, please give Victoria, Chong’s wedding ring.

  Victoria, please repeat after me:

  As your wife and your friend –

 (Victoria repeats)

  I promise that I will stand by you –

 (Victoria repeats)

  In sickness and in health –

 (Victoria repeats)

  For better and for worse –

 (Victoria repeats)

  For richer and for poorer –

 (Victoria repeats)

  For as long as we both shall live –

 (Victoria repeats)

  Do you Victoria, take Chong, to be your husband and pledge to him your respect and faithful love from this day forward?

 (Victoria says, "I do.")

  Please place Chong’s ring on his finger.

  You will be reminded each day of your commitment to this marriage with the wearing of your wedding ring.

  On this very special occasion, Victoria continues a cherished family tradition.

  Today she will present to Chong “13 Arras.”

  The 13 Arras is a family collection of gold coins that have been passed through the generations during wedding ceremonies.

 (Consuelo comes up and gives the coins to Victoria.)

  Victoria’s mother, Consuelo received the coins from her mother, Cecelia, and Cecelia’s mother Maria gave them to her.

  In this ceremony, we honor family traditions and remember Victoria’s grandmother and great-grandmother.

  We can only imagine how proud and happy they would be today.

  Chong, these coins represent all that Victoria has:

  Her treasures, hopes, dreams, life and love.

  Take care of them, as she will take care of you.

 Victoria, please express these sentiments to Chong in Spanish.

  Estas … cuidare.

  (Chong cups his hands as Victoriapours the coins into his hands.)

  Chong please reciprocate the coins.

Victoria, these coins represent all that Chong has:

  His treasures, hopes, dreams, life and love.

  Take care of them, as he will take care of you.

  Chong, please repeat these sentiments to Vitoria in Chinese.

  (Same phrase that Margaret has just said but in Chinese.)

  (Victoria cups her hands as Chong pours the coins into her hands. The small box that contained these coins is then placed on top of the coins and Chong places his hands on top of the box. Margaret then ties a bow around the couple's hands – with treasure box and coins inside – as a symbol for matrimonial union. Make sure that the hands used are the proper ones for easy turning around.

  Chong and Victoria, you have formalized in our presence the existence of the bond of love between you - vowing to be loyal and loving toward one another.

   As a certified Deputy of the State of California, I now pronounce Chong-ren and Victoria to be husband and wife.

  Please embrace and kiss for the first time as husband and wife.

 Presenting the happy couple, Victoria and Chong.